Society has evolved at an incredible pace over the past decades. And while that has been amazing in terms of making our lives easier through technology and tools, it has somewhat diluted the difference between genders. To a certain point, there aren’t men and women anymore, but rather, just people.
As men, we’re born to possess certain qualities — being ambitious, hard working, confident, and hey, even a bit egotistical. But many men have either forgotten or just don’t care about these traits.
The top five traits that many men have lost throughout the past few decades are:
Nowadays, many men have no confidence. They don’t have passion and don’t go for what they want: be it women, a dream job or anything else they would like to do — they’re stifled by fear.
They just stand by, expecting things to come to them; they act too entitled or have no confidence at all. They don’t even try.
Confidence aside, I love the concept of courage. You possess confidence when everything is fine and you have a reason to embody it.
But courage is what you have when something is wrong, or conditions are tough and you need to step up. And while experience gives you confidence — be it to get a gorgeous girl — or to get a job for which you’re not qualified, it requires courage.
Many men today don’t know how to work hard, how to give back to the people who gave to them or how to fight for something. Loyalty is key.
Even though this mindset has been changing lately with companies, like Richard Branson’s Virgin and Starbucks, that promote doing excellent work, giving back and being loyal, many companies still retain the cutthroat environment.
And just as companies, many individual men don’t promote being loyal, giving back or helping the individuals who helped them.
It’s our duty as men to be loyal, not only in business, but also in life. If you have met amazing people who have helped you, help them back. Or help other people for no reason.
Pay it forward. Be loyal to those who are loyal to you. Seek first to understand, then to be understood. Provide value and then take value.
As men, we’re supposed to be centered. We’re supposed to be the pillars of certainty for others in the world. However, many men don’t take the time to have the life experiences necessary obtain that centeredness.
Sure enough, there are men who behave oppositely, who have too much certainty with no reason for it. But that’s not the general rule — most men nowadays don’t have the life experience or confidence to be centered.
Many men have lost touch with culture. They’re sloppy, not thorough, they just want to finish things and many times, not even well. They don’t care about the details at work, when speaking or when in public.
We’re supposed to have a purpose, a passion. But after we achieve the former, we’re supposed to have a culture to surround it. After you get things done, get things done well. After the essentials of your life are accounted for and in order, take care of the rest; read, watch good movies and deliberately brush up on culture.
Ambition is passion, and passion is ambition. Many men can’t identify something they love, something they could spend countless hours doing, perfecting their craft. Be it an area of work or an activity, they just wander through life, trying to get by.
True, today’s world is more competitive than ever; jobs are hard to come by. But that’s exactly why men should be reminded of the importance of being ambitious and a having passion.
If you’re going to suffer, make the most of it. As Churchill would say, “if you’re going through hell, keep going.” If you’re suffering due to difficult conditions and don’t work hard to create something amazing, you’re wasting time.